Saturday, November 12, 2011

How to Stop Worrying

I have taken quite a bit of a break from my regular blogging due to personal reasons. Sometimes life in the real world catches up with you and you feel that you just a need a bit of a break. Other than that, I've been using PLR articles in the past as my inspiration for my posts here. Unfortunately, I find most of them not to my liking. I don't want to sound too judgmental but I feel that I can actually write better original articles. LOL! Of course, it takes a little more of my time and energy, but if I can come up with good inspirational pieces, that would truly make my day! I hope that it makes your day too.

This post is actually inspired by a self-help newsletter that I'm subscribed to at the moment. This particular newsletter is from Will Edwards of White Dove Books UK.

Will talked about his personal development workshops wherein his participants are asked to draw their own personal coat of arms. It's an exercise where you have to think of a symbol to put in and a motto for your life. It's a great way to introduce the concepts of values and principles. We are all as you know shaped by them.

Will points out the difference between personal value and principle. A personal value is something important to the individual, while a principle is like a natural law that always operates to deliver a specific outcome. "Honesty is the best policy." That's a principle. If you adapt it into your own belief system, then it becomes part of your personal value.

In some of the coat of arms exercises, Will found some common themes that occur quite frequently, such as:
  • Treat Others as You Wish to be Treated
  • Don't Worry, Be Happy
  • You Only Live Once
  • Follow Your Heart
  • Believe in Yourself

The first one mentioned is kinda like the Golden Rule. It is in fact a principle that can be found in all the major religions of the world.

Will made special mention of one motto he encountered in one of his workshops : No Problems. The person who wrote it believes that no matter what happens in life, there's always a way to sort it out.

That actually reminds me of a saying my late dad used to say and one which I use quite often as of late.. "That is a problem all right, but that's a problem with a solution." Uttering it somehow makes it easier to accept that there is a problem but it's nothing to worry about as it can be solved.

The truth is the vast majority of the things we tend to worry about never actually come to pass. So it is a fact that most of our worrying is entirely wasted energy.

When faced with tough situations, weigh your options, make decisions, and face the consequences as they arise. That certainly beats worrying too much. This approach may not be for everyone, but it's something I personally use in my daily life too. I find that I now worry less and have more time and energy spent on positive stuff than otherwise.

If you truly want to stop worrying, then why don't you give this a try? Who knows? You may realize that it works for you too!